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Goal One: Sleep

Arite had four very simple goals in life.

The first was sleep.

Cats may nap but my dog knew how to snooze.  If there was no chance of food or a walk, Artie would plop down and pass out.  Always, it seems, right in the middle of the action and we’d find our self stepping around his snoring body as we went about our play.

But Artie’s secret love was to sleep on our bed.  From the moment we took him home from the shelter I believe he was plotting his avenue to attack.  We had the kitties when we brought Artie home and we were a bit worried about how they’d get along.  We had a fenced dog run in the backyard and we thought he’d sleep out there.  What fools we were.  It was early August and hot and we were sleeping with our windows open.  After the first night of listening to him bark and whine all night long, we quickly realized outside was not an option.  I guess after spending three months caged in the pound, Artie was  not going to settle for any more time alone in a cage.

So our next plan was to get Artie a crate to sleep in indoors.  At night, we’d tell him it was time to go to bed and he’d walk sadly over to his crate and curl up inside.  We’d shut the door and retire upstairs for the night.  This was when the problems began.  You see, the kitties could not believe their good luck!  Here was a dog locked up but still within paw swipe reach for their personal night time amusement!  And so they’d poke and prod him all night long and make him miserable.

Another plan was needed and I thought I was pretty smart when I decided to put  Artie in his crate with the crate door open and erected a baby gate in the doorway of the room.  We thought it would keep the cats out and let Artie move about as he pleased.  In hindsight, it wasn’t the best of plans.  The cats jumped the baby gate only to find themselves face to face with a very loose and very grumpy dog.  A madcap chase then ensured worthy of a Tom and Jerry episode with the result of cats yowling, dog growling and the baby gate crashing down at 2am waking us from our sleep.  Clearly, we needed another solution and we settled on ignorance.  Every night, we’d tell Artie it was time for bed and he’d put himself in his cage.  We’d kiss him good night and head up stairs.  As soon as we reached the top of the stairs, we’d hear him get up and pad back over to the sofa were he’d jump up and sleep all night.

This didn’t last for long though.  Our dog trainer recommended we get him his own bed and let him sleep in our room so the pack could stay together.  We put it next to our bed where it stayed for the next nine years and he was happy to use it……. except in the winter.

Back then, we slept in a converted attic at 69th and there was no heating in our bedroom.  At winter time, we’d turn on the small, stinky, space heater and huddle under our feather bed.  Artie quickly decided that he wanted in the the warmth too. So at night, after we’d get in bed, we’d look down at our feet and we’d see his  little head resting on our bed.   Tail wagging, puppy wolf eyes pleading, and you know we gave in.  He was a smart dog and always started very respectfully.  He’d curl up at our feet and doze off.  Unfortunately, as the night wore on, he’d forgot his manners and would slowly uncurl and move up the bed until he was lying back to back  with Kevin all limbs splayed.  Now, on a full sized mattress there is room for two people or one person and a fat sausage dog but there is no way to fit all three.  Because I love him so, I just couldn’t kick him off so I’d usually end up grabbing my pillow and going downstairs to sleep on the sofa for the rest of the night.  Lucky dog.  We finally fixed the situation by buying Artie his very own electric blanket that I’d turn on to warm his puppy bed at night.  What a lucky dog!

This house, thankfully,  has heating in all rooms so he never tried to sleep with us at night.  Instead, he liked to sleep in the  bed when he thought we weren’t looking.  As soon as the front door closed and we headed to school or playgroup Artie would hop up on our bed for his morning nap.  I caught him several times when I had to dash back in for a forgotten Patches or snack bag.  And although he looked guilty up there,  I never shoo’d him off.  Instead, I’d rub his belly and let him be and I’m so thankful that I did!

Kulia, especially, loved it when Artie got on the bed.  When we’d come home in the morning from our errands, she’d turn to me with a twinkle  and give me the “shhhhh” finger.  “Shhhhh, mommy, let’s see if Artie’s on the bed!” she’d whisper and I’d do my best to turn my key very quietly in the lock.  As soon as the door was open, she’d dash upstairs to see if she could catch Artie still napping.  Most days, he was waiting by the door all innocent but occasionally she’d sneak up on him still in bed and it  would tickle her pink.

Yesterday, as we came home, she asked me to open the door quietly.

“Why, honey?”, I asked her.

“Because I want to see if Artie is on the bed”, she answered with her best sneaky smile.

“Oh, honey, Artie isn’t here, he died, remember?

“Oh”, she said, “I forgot.”

And that’s what is so hard right now.  It’s so easy to forget that he’s gone.  We have so many routines that we did for him without thinking that when we fall into one it shocks me into realizing that he is gone again.  I have to unlearn all my Artie actions and so far is isn’t easy.

So these are the memories I have of Artie and his love of sleep.  On the sofa, the floor, his bed or mine, that dog knew how to enjoy his sleep.  Rest in peace Old Man.  I miss you.

Grief

We are still processing Artie’s death.  This is so much harder than I thought it would be.  He’s been gone for a whole day now but it feels like so much longer.  I find myself crying all the time and I can’t stop thinking about him, missing him, remembering him and wishing.  I know he was “just a dog” but he was my dog.  My first and only dog.  I guess I never realized what a big role he played in our house.  He was always here, you see.  Always.  We came and went but Artie?  We waited just for us.

At lunch today, Kulia dropped her bowl on the ground and her noodles spilled everywhere.  Kevin and I just looked at each other with such sadness because we knew he wasn’t waiting under the table to gobble it up.  He was gone.  It was just us.  So Kevin calmly got up to find a rag while I hung my head to hide the tears from my girls.  Because I miss him so.  I even miss the hair!  Amazing, right?  I’ve spent the last nine years trying to get rid of it and now that it’s gone I’m beginning to panic.  My mom vacuumed for me and man was she thorough.  I’ve checked all the usual spots but they are all empty.  I can’t find a clump of hair to save my life.  Or my heart.  Because he’s gone.

Kevin is equally shattered.  He has decided we are going to have to re-arrange our bedroom because every time we walk past the door and see the empty void at the base of our bed where he slept, it wretches our soul open.  Because he’s gone.  I’m not sure what where exactly I am in the steps of grieving but I know I’m rapidly approaching anger.  I don’t know what else to do with all this sorrow weighing me down.  I guess I’m hoping I can turn it into anger to burn it out of me.  Anger that he’s gone.  Anger that he got sick so quickly.  Anger that I didn’t see it happening and I couldn’t stop it in the end.  But even the anger isn’t working because he’s still gone.

Oh Artie.  My sweet puppydoodle.  I have no regrets.  You wouldn’t let us ignore you.  You were underfoot every day of our lives.  I can honestly say that not a day passed that you didn’t get loved or fed or walked by one or all of us and maybe that’s what makes it so hard.  I have no retreat.  There is no where in this house that I can go that doesn’t echo with emptiness.  No where I can look and not notice that you aren’t sprawled under my feet or whining to go out or eyeing the food on the counter.  This whole house is full of stuff and all I can see is what isn’t here.  You.  My dog.  My sweet, wonderful, dog.  Oh Artie.

I know I need to find a way to make peace with this.  I’m frantic that I’m going to forget you and so I find myself manically pulling together pictures and stories and video of you, my Old Man.  I want to stash them away somewhere safe and maybe then my heartache will ease.  Maybe then I won’t wander around these empty rooms looking in vain for signs of you that just aren’t to be found.  Maybe then I can say “you’re gone” with peace instead of such tearing pain.

So I’m going to try and remember you for the next few days.  I’m going to pick up each precious memory and wrap it around my broken heart and hope that they will be enough to mend it.  I found this deep in the Archives of our website.  It was dated February 25, 2002.  We were planning to leave Artie for the first time with Kat and Josh and being crazy in love with him, we were worried how he’d do on his first sleepover.  Kat and Josh, being pet lovers too, totally understood our concern and graciously agreed to a trial run sleepover.  Little did they know this would be the first of many overnight visits as Artie adored them both.  This post rings so true now.  He’s an easy dog to miss, I guess.

We had a night without Artie over the weekend. It was a scary-strange night not having the big lug in the house. I’d open the fridge and expect to hear him jump off the sofa and come jangling over, confident that whatever came out of the fridge would be shared with him. There was no hopeful little puppy face on the side of the bed that night, whining and trying to look pathetic so I’d invite him up. No one to body slam the bed the next morning to announce that it was time for a potty break. What a sad and lonely life I lead before my pooch.

So where was Artie you ask? He was having a trial run sleep over at Kat & Josh. Since we are going out of town, they will be the proud owners of 85 pounds of puppy love for the weekend and we wanted to make sure they were up for the task. When we arrived the next morning to claim our pooch, they seemed no worse for the experience. They did, however, want to know if he always needed a potty break at 6:45am. We assured them that he was more of an 8:30am dog. Suckers.

So last night, Artie was back on the sofa where he belonged and the girls were shooting us looks of hate for having raised and then dashed their little kitty dreams, and everything was right in the world. I missed Artie so much that when he began begging to be let up on the bed last night, I gave in without a fuss. Of course, I spent most of the night contorted with one leg hanging off the bed and without any covers on the left side of my body because the darn dog kept hogging all the room but it was worth it when he lay his head on my leg, sighed a big puppy sigh of pure happiness, and begin licking the back of my knee.

How I ever managed to live without my dog I will never know.

Artie Died Today

I still can’t believe it.  Artie died today.

We don’t know why.  All we know is that he went very quickly from his normal frisky self to a dog in a great deal  of pain and suffering and all we could do was say good-bye and let him go.  But honestly?  I haven’t.   I’m holding on to him as tightly as I can in my heart.  Looking at his unfinished dog bones, sweeping up his hair from the kitchen floor, passing his empty food dish and listening for the skitter of his claws as he rounds the corner into the kitchen.  I know we couldn’t keep him here any longer but oh how I long for just another day.  Just one day to take a last walk together.  I swear I’d throw him treats every other step.  Just one day with him snoozing in front of the sofa, or sprawled under my feet.  One last moment to bury myself in the scruff of his neck and tell him how much I love him and what a truely wonderful dog he was.

Because he was.  Wonderful.  The best.  My constant companion for the last nine years.  Oh Artie, I am not ready for this.  I don’t think my heart can take losing you.  I am so thankful for having you but I’m so greedy I wanted more.  Much more.  Instead, I’m left with this pooch sized whole in my heart that I’ll carry for a very long time.

Artie dog McLaughlin.  Best dog ever.

Still June, Still Vomiting

I know!  Right?  How is that possible?

This time, however, the children were spared.  It was Artie who was sick.  You know that saying, “sick as a dog”?  Well, I n0w have a very very graphic idea of what, exactly, that means and let me tell you, it ain’t purdy.

Kevin BBQ’d last night and I guess he left some nice drippings under the Q because the girls said they say Artie eating the charcoal dust/drippings.  And if any of you have ever had a dog, you are probably well aware of the fact that eating charcoal = massive vomiting.  Of course, Artie waited until 3am to start ’cause waking up to dog puke is only fun in the wee hours of the morning.  Our carpet is dotted with soapy wet spots this morning and I shudder to think what is lurking outside.  Lets just say, Artie was tossing his charcoal cookies from 3am to 6am.  Now he is crashed out next to me and seems fine.  Kevin and I, however, are still trying to recover.

June, you horrid month, die already!

The Chickens of My Dreams

My dad went to the San Diego Fair the other day and found the chicken coop of my dreams.  It will fit in the back of his truck and he could drive it right up.  Be still my beating heart.  Now, all I have to do is convince my HOA to let me have my feathered friends……

The Thelma And Lousie chicken coop. Someday.  Someday.

Back From Spokane

We had a very nice visit with all of Kevin’s relatives out in Spokane this weekend.  The kids did great and we survived the very very long drive rather well.  Their favorite part was the indoor swimming pool at the hotel.   My favorite was the buffet breakfast every morning.  I think, if I could, I would have someone prepare a warm breakfast for me every morning.  And then do all the dishes too.  What a great way to start the day!

I meant to post a picture of the bag I made Leina’s preschool teacher as an end of the year gift but somehow time got away from me.  I found the fabrics way back when Ms. Erica came out to visit and then dug out the pattern from my horde.  All went well until the very last step when I managed, somehow, to snip right through the front of the bag five time.  Sigh.  It was too late to make  a new bag so I did my best to patch it up before I handed it off.  But honestly?  I was just sick.  Sick!  I do love the fabric and have more than enough to make another so….. you might just see me sporting my very own mushroom bag in the near future.  Hopefully, without the horrid snip marks.  Grrrr.